Plan B

A well-meaning friend recently gave me a colorful little plaque that reads:

“Life is all about how you handle Plan B.”

Wow! And isn’t that the truth?

It is human nature to construct a plan for our lives and to work diligently towards the goals we set. Likewise, it is perfectly normal to be disappointed when things don’t work out the way we hoped and dreamed.

None of us who lost children, spouses, siblings, parents, or friends to suicide intended for this to be a part of the plan we envisioned for our lives. Certainly we had lofty aspirations for our children, the anticipation of spending more time with our siblings and spouses, and the normal expectations of our parents growing old and naturally dying before us. But with every suicide, dreams fade, hopes and goals dissolve, and simple expectations turn into heartbreaking regret.

Time to move on to Plan B:

  • Life without the joy of watching your child grow up.
  • A too-quiet house and silent evenings without a spouse.
  • No sibling to tease or hang out with.
  • No parent to call for advice.
  • No co-worker’s desk to walk past each morning.

For all those suffering loss – regardless of what kind – It takes great courage and strength to journey through the dark and unfamiliar valley of death. It takes great resolve to push depression and bitterness aside, take a deep breath and get on with life. Plan B is definitely tough!

In our human flesh, we believe we know what “Plan A” should have looked like. It humbles me to consider the idea that while I might think I know what is best for my life, God ultimately has a clear picture of who He wants me to be and what He wants me to accomplish for Him.

  • Jeremiah 29:11 reminds us: “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”
  • Ephesians 2:10 states: “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago.”

What about you? Has Plan A miserably failed? Are you trying to formulate Plan B?

Keep your chin up as you get acquainted with your “new normal”. Leave your heart open for happiness to tiptoe in. In time, brace yourself for new joy! And always, let us trust God’s faithful goodness and seek Him for all the provisions we need.


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